What do you do when you cannot talk about something that really makes you angry?
It is not that I am not emotionally of physically capable of speaking on the matter, but rather that I am obliged by my position not to speak on the subject.
It is a matter of good order an discipline that some happenings must remain undisclosed. I have seen many times that a simple secret has embarrassed people and almost ruined lives.
Mrs. New Employee goes to lunch with Mrs. Co-Worker. During the meal the topic turns to a Mutual Acquaintance. Mrs. New Employee makes an off key comment about Mutual Acquaintance to find out that Mrs. Co-Worker is friends with Mutual Acquaintance’s mother.
But maybe this is not a great example. Mrs. New Employee was not keeping a secret, save her opinion, if you would consider that a secret. This would be an excellent opportunity for Mrs. New Employee to learn some discretion.
Mr. Mid-Level Manager knows something that will help Mrs. Lower-Level Manager on the job. This information may be detrimental to the Company, and would compromise Mr. Mid-Level Manager’s integrity. Mr. Mid-Level Manager keeps this information to himself because that is what he is obligated to do, despite his friendship with Mrs. Lower-Level Manager.
This example is more along the lines of what I am talking about. The conflict arises from the conflicting obligations. Mr. Mid-Level Manager must either compromise his integrity or watch a friend suffer unduly.
Neither of these examples reflects my particular predicament. These examples merely demonstrate similar situations so that you may understand where I am coming from.
It all comes down to your personal preference. Whatever you do, someone is going to get disappointed.